Our Process

Daily living is a combination of complex connections in mind, body and spirit.  At times we as humans can become disoriented through conflicts which arise from interaction with others who have an opposing perspective.  Because we are self-willed by virtue of learned behavior, as well as, by innate characteristics, we become unsettled when our beliefs or instincts are challenged.  These conflicts can lead to destructive patterns and result in uncontrollable habits.  Then, our relationships, whether they are intimate or casual, can be affected and potentially damaged.

As we grow-up we learn from all matter of sources: parents, teachers, friends, television shows, social media and “on the street” (the latter two perhaps being the most impactful).  We learn techniques and strategies on how to do things and become aware of how things get done.  We develop principles, values, habits—we become what we know and believe.  We then act as we believe.  Our beliefs become our truth.  We find that when things are done a certain way, the results are most often predictable.  Our expectations are thus fixed by the usual outcome.  You study, you learn; you practice, you improve; you work, you get paid.  The challenge is that life is not so simplistic.  Add to it the complexities of individual personalities and personal agendas, let alone when one person learned it one way and the other another.  You think your way and I think mine.  So, who’s right?

A loaded question, to be sure, but the literal daily implication is clear and necessitates that we recognize these variations or face conflict.  Meaning that one’s expectations are an extension of his or her beliefs and thinking. Furthermore, because expectations are involved in every part of the thinking paradigm (planning, process and outcome) we may end up being chronically disappointed.  Thus, to survive, we need to become aware of our biased expectations in order to avoid the agitation that comes from a less than desirable outcome, according to our beliefs.  Just knowing this is enough to begin, but the real work will be in learning how our thinking plays a major role in this dynamic. 

What is coaching?

• Coaching is not Consulting: Coaching is an interactive process that seeks to uncover personal values and belief systems.  A coach uses interpersonal skills to explore those ideals and refine them for healthy living.

• Coaching is not Mentoring: Coaching is not acting as one who is superior or as an intellectual advisor. A coach shares strategies and methods to seek change.  A coach is a guide.

• Coaching is not Therapy: Coaching does not attempt to psychoanalyze the past or tap into the subconscious. A coach will focus in assisting recognition of behaviors, thoughts and attitudes that may be destructive and detrimental to relationships.

Throughout the process, clients will be encouraged to attend other support groups.  We do not claim to have the only answers, but we are well prepared to offer guidance in Change and Recovery.  In addition, we may implement opportunities for clients to join into group discussion as a supplement to the healing process.  These meetings are intended to be a safe place for people to share thoughts, troubles, strengths, needs, etc.; and a protocol for strict confidentiality and group dynamics will be followed at all times.

Our Method

Functionally, the actual means by which one’s beliefs change begins in the heart; the emotions epicenter.  Thus, by turning the focus inward, creating a positive mindset and learning to manage instincts the client will uncover a new and self-fulfilling way of life.  This integral part of transformation will be revealed through a personal spiritual awakening that the client discovers in this genuine internal process. The world’s pressures will be relinquished and the client’s unhealthy tendencies will be relieved.  This change requires daily practice managed through honesty, open-mindedness and willingness.  The results of this ongoing work is a sense of serenity and peace of mind even in the chaos of daily life.  Historically, this process of surrender has been proven to be successful in those who desire to change.

The overall strategy is to work to instill the principals of a 12-step program and the spiritual pursuits it encourages into daily life, thereby increasing the client’s growth along with trust in a Higher Power. Through the work of the “12 Steps to Serenity” the client will be presented with a basis to formulate/revise personal beliefs and understanding in life. This is done by becoming open and transparent with oneself, a coach and Higher Power; by allowing the process to remove the walls of rejection, hurt, mistrust, and anger that have separated the client, not only from oneself but from others and the Spirit, as well. Truly, each person is meant to be Whole and when the Principles set forth in the Steps are put into practice, woven into daily living, and by being open the effect is a healing and restoration beyond one’s wildest dreams.

If you have found that you are out of sorts; in conflict with the people in your surroundings; living in the throes of frustration or anxiety; searching for purpose or meaning to your life, then it is time to make the choice to alter your course. The fact is that change is possible, as I can testify, and I am here to lead you on your transformational journey.